- Offer to help her with daily chores and tasks.Lending a helping hand is a great way to show your girlfriend how much you care about her and help her feel special. Offer to help cook, clean, or take care of something on her to-do list without waiting for her to ask.[1]
- For example, you might say, “Hey, you’ve been working hard all day. Why don’t you let me cook dinner tonight?”
- When you help out with things, try not to act like you expect something in return or complain about the work. That can annoy your girlfriend or make the gesture seem less special.
- Dating coach Connell Barrett recommends asking yourself, “How can I make my partner feel significant, appreciated, and loved today?” He says that if “You do that every day, you're going to have a great chance for a long lasting, mutually connected, passionate relationship.”
Give her gifts from time to time.Brighten your girlfriend’s day and show her you’re thinking of her by giving her a gift now and then. It can be for a special occasion, when she’s feeling down, or “just because.” Try not to worry about blowing money on anything fancy—she may appreciate the thought you put into it or the time you spent making it.[2]- The gifts you get will feel more meaningful if they connect to who she is as a person or what makes your relationship special.
- For example, you might print out and frame a nice picture of the two of you or buy her a mug with her favorite quote on it.
- Dating coach John Keegan says you can also “show up with small things they like” such as “small little chocolates, if they love chocolate.”
- When you give her the gift, say something like, “I saw this and thought of you!”
Schedule quality time with her regularly.Spending one-on-one time with your girlfriend is one of the best ways to deepen your bond with her and help her feel loved. Try to schedule a date night or a time where you give her your undivided attention at least once a week.[3]- For example, you might have dinner and a movie, go for a walk together, or just hang out at home together and play video games.
- Take turns choosing what you do during your time together. Letting her call the shots sometimes can show that you value her wants and needs.
- When spending time with your partner, Keegan says to try to “not be distracted by your phone or extraneous things going on, and really be focused on them.”
Show her physical affection.Physical touch is an important part of a romantic relationship for most people. Show affection for your girlfriend by holding hands, hugging, kissing, or giving her a backrub.[4] Just make sure you ask her what she’s comfortable with and respect her wishes if she doesn’t want to be touched!- Sex can be an important part of a healthy relationship for many couples, but try to incorporate physical touch that isn’t sexual. Your girlfriend may feel more comfortable—and enjoy your intimate moments more—if your kisses and hugs don’t feel like they come with strings attached.[5]
- If you do venture into more physically intimate acts, make sure to ask your girlfriend about her needs and desires during sex. That way, she doesn’t feel any need to fake her pleasure to protect your feelings.
- Reader Poll: We asked 867 wikiHow readers and 50% of them believe that the main reason women fake orgasms is to make their partner feel good about their performance.
Give her compliments and encourage her.Everyone likes to hear kind and supportive words from their partner. Saying positive things to your girlfriend will help her feel loved and appreciated, which can improve your relationship overall.[6] So, if you’re thinking something nice about her, don’t keep it to yourself—say it out loud!- Try a classic “I love you,” or say other things to let her know how you feel about her like, “You brighten my whole day,” or “I’m so happy when we’re together.”
- You can also try giving her compliments like, “You were awesome in class today!” or “Your eyes are just so gorgeous.”
- Use words to express gratitude or appreciation, too. You might say things like, “Thanks so much for coming to my recital. You’re the best!”
